ABC OF ROMANCE:
LETTER STAND FOR
A - AFFECTION
B - BELOVED
C - CARE
D - DEAR
E - ECSTACY
F - FEEL
G - GRACIOUSNESS
H - HUGS
I - INSEPERABLE
J - JOY
K - KISSES
L - LOVE
M - MARRIAGE
N - NIRVANA
O - ORGASM
P - PASSION
Q - QUINTESSENTIAL
R - ROMANCE
S - SENSATIONAL
T - TOGETHERNESS
U - UNDYING
V - VENUS
W - WARMTH
X - X-FACTOR you know how.
Y - YES!
Z - ZEALOUS
Sunday, February 3, 2008
10 Ways to Build a Good Relationship:
10 Ways to Build a Good Relationship:
Good Relationship
* BE A MAN OF YOUR WORD
A successful and strong relationship is one that is built on trust and dependability. If you tell a woman that you are going to do something, she will expect you to keep that commitment. Whether it's a date you've made for dinner, a promise to water her plants while she's on vacation, or a resolution to give up smoking, keeping a pledge is crucial in developing and nurturing a solid foundation for the future. Even if it is something that seems insignificant to you in the big scheme of things (i.e., returning a library book for her on your way home from work), a succession of forgetful moments will diminish her faith in you. Accordingly, if every time you promise to do something triggers a reaction on her part to have a Plan B just in case, it is only a matter of time before she starts seeking out a new companion with a better track record for reliability. Never make a promise unless it is one that you know you can keep.
* SHOW HER RESPECT
If you want to keep a special woman in your life, you need to not only let her know that you put her on a pedestal but that you are willing to defend her honor to be there. This means that you don't engage in gossip or divulge confidences, that you don't criticize or belittle her, and that your love life isn't an open book to anyone who's nosey. If up until now your priority has been to spend all your free hours with your football buddies, you may need to start rethinking your agenda. A woman who always takes second, third or last place to other relationships in your life isn't going to stay in the picture for very long. Showing respect also means fidelity to the relationship if you've both made a commitment to monogamy. If you can't stay faithful, you owe her the respect of freeing her to meet someone who will appreciate and honor the treasure that she is.
* LEAVE YOUR BAGGAGE AT THE DOOR
The last thing a woman wants is a whiner who does nothing but bemoan the fact that all of her predecessors--and probably life in general--treated him badly. While it's one thing for her to be initially sympathetic, it's draining to listen to the same sob stories day after day. Keep in mind that the more time you spend dwelling on the past, the less energy you'll have to spend building a new future. This also goes for men who talk incessantly about past relationships that were good. Whether the split came about as the result of death or divorce, women don't like to compete with the Ghosts of Relationships Past.
* ACCEPT HER AS SHE IS
Maybe your beloved would look better if she lost a couple pounds. Maybe she should update that hairdo and go for something snazzier. Maybe she'd look better on your arm if she wore different clothes. If you find yourself keeping a list of all the things she should be doing, you may be looking for a makeover project instead of a girlfriend or future wife. What you need to ask yourself is whether your barrage of suggestions is really meant to help her or to reinvent her into someone who would better define who you think you are. Women--and men--want to know that they're loved for themselves, not for an idealistic image that may be difficult to obtain. There's a right way and a wrong way to recommend improvement. To imply that you could love her more if she didn't have quite so many flaws is definitely the wrong way.
* DON'T BE POSSESSIVE
Do you call your girlfriend every hour of the day? Do you demand a thorough accounting of what she’s doing and who she’s seeing whenever she’s not with you? Are you purposely driving a wedge between her and her family and friends so you won’t have to share her? Do you discourage her from doing activities she really loves because you resent that you’re not a part of it? If your behavior fits these descriptions, it’s not love; it’s obsession. In concert with the advice to treat your lady with proper respect, you need to allow her the freedom to have time to spend on herself. Jealousy and possessiveness are unhealthy in any relationship and communicate that you are insecure, clingy, and potentially violent if you’re not the center of attention.
* DON'T RUSH ROMANCE
If you want a strong love connection, you need to start out with an equally strong “like” connection. It’s easy to rush headlong into a permanent relationship when you’re more excited about the prospect of being half of a couple than in enjoying the journey of discovering the things you have in common. Even if you’re sure that this is truly love at first sight and you don’t want to waste any time getting her in bed or off to the altar, a partnership that is meant to last will have a better chance if the man and woman invest in the value of friendship with one another. Consider the qualities and traits you admire in the people to whom you are close and apply those same tests in picking the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.
* PAY ATTENTION
Being a good partner means being a conscientious listener. It means not talking about yourself so much that she can never get a word in edgewise. It means that when she hints she’d really like a certain sweater for her birthday you don’t go out and buy her a CD of your favorite R&B singer instead. It also means that you’re sensitive to her moods, that you take an interest in projects she’s doing at work or problems she’s currently having with her siblings, and that you actually notice (and take action) if you see that one of her tires is low or that she comments on a new restaurant she’d like to try. Pay attention to the calendar, too. Remembering birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions demonstrates that she’s important enough to you that you know how to plan ahead.
* TRY NEW THINGS
Show an open mind when it comes to trying out new foods, activities, or ideas. While the two of you don’t have to share the same passion for every single thing that comes along, she’s far more likely to accompany you to a monster truck rally someday if you’ve accompanied her to a performance of the ballet. The fact that you show the willingness and curiosity to see what something is about instead of flatly dismissing it as stupid will accrue huge points in the sensitivity department. Why? Men and women tend to interpret the rejection of an idea as a rejection of them personally, a condition that will only fester with the passage of time. It should also be understood between the two of you that if the new whatever isn’t a good fit, it won’t continue to linger as a bone of contention. Trying it once—and respecting the outcome— is the most that either of you can ask.
* SHARE THE WORK
In today’s society, there is no such thing as “a woman’s job” or “a man’s job.” The fact that both parties put in a full day of work shouldn’t mean that it’s always the female’s job to cook the meals, set the table, wash the dishes and do the laundry. You may not be a gourmet chef but that shouldn’t stop you from picking up and dishing out Chinese food. Your gender also shouldn’t inhibit you from running the vacuum cleaner, walking the dog, or helping put postage stamps on the wedding invitations.
* CELEBRATE THE ORDINARY
Too many couples make the mistake of only pulling out all the stops for each other on vacations and special holidays. The rest of the time, they’re taking each other for granted. While it’s easy to say, “I love you” against an exotic backdrop or go overboard buying presents on Valentine’s Day, a happy relationship is one that celebrates itself every day of the year. Buy her a card “just because.” Schedule date nights…and keep them! Give her a foot rub when she’s had a rough day. Bring her lunch in bed and a favorite DVD when she’s under the weather. Let her know on a regular basis that she’s not only the love of your life but also the best friend you could ever have. Most of all, remember that “happily ever after” isn’t a destination but a journey to be taken hand in hand and heart to heart.
Good Relationship
* BE A MAN OF YOUR WORD
A successful and strong relationship is one that is built on trust and dependability. If you tell a woman that you are going to do something, she will expect you to keep that commitment. Whether it's a date you've made for dinner, a promise to water her plants while she's on vacation, or a resolution to give up smoking, keeping a pledge is crucial in developing and nurturing a solid foundation for the future. Even if it is something that seems insignificant to you in the big scheme of things (i.e., returning a library book for her on your way home from work), a succession of forgetful moments will diminish her faith in you. Accordingly, if every time you promise to do something triggers a reaction on her part to have a Plan B just in case, it is only a matter of time before she starts seeking out a new companion with a better track record for reliability. Never make a promise unless it is one that you know you can keep.
* SHOW HER RESPECT
If you want to keep a special woman in your life, you need to not only let her know that you put her on a pedestal but that you are willing to defend her honor to be there. This means that you don't engage in gossip or divulge confidences, that you don't criticize or belittle her, and that your love life isn't an open book to anyone who's nosey. If up until now your priority has been to spend all your free hours with your football buddies, you may need to start rethinking your agenda. A woman who always takes second, third or last place to other relationships in your life isn't going to stay in the picture for very long. Showing respect also means fidelity to the relationship if you've both made a commitment to monogamy. If you can't stay faithful, you owe her the respect of freeing her to meet someone who will appreciate and honor the treasure that she is.
* LEAVE YOUR BAGGAGE AT THE DOOR
The last thing a woman wants is a whiner who does nothing but bemoan the fact that all of her predecessors--and probably life in general--treated him badly. While it's one thing for her to be initially sympathetic, it's draining to listen to the same sob stories day after day. Keep in mind that the more time you spend dwelling on the past, the less energy you'll have to spend building a new future. This also goes for men who talk incessantly about past relationships that were good. Whether the split came about as the result of death or divorce, women don't like to compete with the Ghosts of Relationships Past.
* ACCEPT HER AS SHE IS
Maybe your beloved would look better if she lost a couple pounds. Maybe she should update that hairdo and go for something snazzier. Maybe she'd look better on your arm if she wore different clothes. If you find yourself keeping a list of all the things she should be doing, you may be looking for a makeover project instead of a girlfriend or future wife. What you need to ask yourself is whether your barrage of suggestions is really meant to help her or to reinvent her into someone who would better define who you think you are. Women--and men--want to know that they're loved for themselves, not for an idealistic image that may be difficult to obtain. There's a right way and a wrong way to recommend improvement. To imply that you could love her more if she didn't have quite so many flaws is definitely the wrong way.
* DON'T BE POSSESSIVE
Do you call your girlfriend every hour of the day? Do you demand a thorough accounting of what she’s doing and who she’s seeing whenever she’s not with you? Are you purposely driving a wedge between her and her family and friends so you won’t have to share her? Do you discourage her from doing activities she really loves because you resent that you’re not a part of it? If your behavior fits these descriptions, it’s not love; it’s obsession. In concert with the advice to treat your lady with proper respect, you need to allow her the freedom to have time to spend on herself. Jealousy and possessiveness are unhealthy in any relationship and communicate that you are insecure, clingy, and potentially violent if you’re not the center of attention.
* DON'T RUSH ROMANCE
If you want a strong love connection, you need to start out with an equally strong “like” connection. It’s easy to rush headlong into a permanent relationship when you’re more excited about the prospect of being half of a couple than in enjoying the journey of discovering the things you have in common. Even if you’re sure that this is truly love at first sight and you don’t want to waste any time getting her in bed or off to the altar, a partnership that is meant to last will have a better chance if the man and woman invest in the value of friendship with one another. Consider the qualities and traits you admire in the people to whom you are close and apply those same tests in picking the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life.
* PAY ATTENTION
Being a good partner means being a conscientious listener. It means not talking about yourself so much that she can never get a word in edgewise. It means that when she hints she’d really like a certain sweater for her birthday you don’t go out and buy her a CD of your favorite R&B singer instead. It also means that you’re sensitive to her moods, that you take an interest in projects she’s doing at work or problems she’s currently having with her siblings, and that you actually notice (and take action) if you see that one of her tires is low or that she comments on a new restaurant she’d like to try. Pay attention to the calendar, too. Remembering birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions demonstrates that she’s important enough to you that you know how to plan ahead.
* TRY NEW THINGS
Show an open mind when it comes to trying out new foods, activities, or ideas. While the two of you don’t have to share the same passion for every single thing that comes along, she’s far more likely to accompany you to a monster truck rally someday if you’ve accompanied her to a performance of the ballet. The fact that you show the willingness and curiosity to see what something is about instead of flatly dismissing it as stupid will accrue huge points in the sensitivity department. Why? Men and women tend to interpret the rejection of an idea as a rejection of them personally, a condition that will only fester with the passage of time. It should also be understood between the two of you that if the new whatever isn’t a good fit, it won’t continue to linger as a bone of contention. Trying it once—and respecting the outcome— is the most that either of you can ask.
* SHARE THE WORK
In today’s society, there is no such thing as “a woman’s job” or “a man’s job.” The fact that both parties put in a full day of work shouldn’t mean that it’s always the female’s job to cook the meals, set the table, wash the dishes and do the laundry. You may not be a gourmet chef but that shouldn’t stop you from picking up and dishing out Chinese food. Your gender also shouldn’t inhibit you from running the vacuum cleaner, walking the dog, or helping put postage stamps on the wedding invitations.
* CELEBRATE THE ORDINARY
Too many couples make the mistake of only pulling out all the stops for each other on vacations and special holidays. The rest of the time, they’re taking each other for granted. While it’s easy to say, “I love you” against an exotic backdrop or go overboard buying presents on Valentine’s Day, a happy relationship is one that celebrates itself every day of the year. Buy her a card “just because.” Schedule date nights…and keep them! Give her a foot rub when she’s had a rough day. Bring her lunch in bed and a favorite DVD when she’s under the weather. Let her know on a regular basis that she’s not only the love of your life but also the best friend you could ever have. Most of all, remember that “happily ever after” isn’t a destination but a journey to be taken hand in hand and heart to heart.
DATING TIPS FOR BEGINNERS...
DATING TIPS FOR BEGINNERS...
How to attract the person you like?
Due to the spontaneity of the situation, you both had no expectations ( romantic agenda) and were able to communicate from a confident standpoint because neither of you had anything riding on the dialogue.
I also think that another essential ingredient is the humor. I guess that the disguised humor is a banter. Bantering involves teasing and it tests wits.
Attractin g the opposite sex
If both people can keep their wits about them, yet feel the challenge of the other person's wit, they are sure to become attracted to each other.
If there is no challenge, there won't be any attraction -- unless it is a one-sided attraction and challenge (the person who is less able to keep their wits about them will be challenged and attracted to the other).
Start out with a friendship first!
Every relationship I ever had always started out with a friendship first.
Sometimes the friendship was even there for years, before it finally "clicked" Even though I like surprises, when it comes to relationships, I rather have a good idea about the package I am getting, before jumping into it.
Of course that doesn't guarantee that I won't get disappointed or hurt or find things out about him later, which I didn't see before, but it narrows the chance of "bad surprises" considerably.
How to Make Women feel attracted to you?
How to Make Women feel attracted to you I would like to share some advice on how to make women attracted to you by making her feel "special." The same applies to men / women relationship.
The most important thing you can do to make women feel attracted to you is to make her feel special. Women are a lot less interested in the way you appear to her than in the way to make her feel about herself.
It's very important to make women feel special and unique. In return, she will feel that you are also special and unique.
So, how do you make a woman feel special?
You tell her by saying something like this: "There's something very special about you. I noticed you the second I first saw you.
You have a very unique face that's so exotic I can't explain it.
You're more than just attractive.
There's something very unique and original about your look."
Just say this to a woman you've just met and watch her reaction.
I can guarantee you her face will light up with a smile and she will radiate warmth towards you.
Tell woman something special about her!
So, remember when you're out on the crowd looking for romance, don't forget to tell women that there's something special about them.
Make them feel that they are the most important and special person on the earth. If you can do this, you're love life will skyrocket!
How to attract the person you like?
Due to the spontaneity of the situation, you both had no expectations ( romantic agenda) and were able to communicate from a confident standpoint because neither of you had anything riding on the dialogue.
I also think that another essential ingredient is the humor. I guess that the disguised humor is a banter. Bantering involves teasing and it tests wits.
Attractin g the opposite sex
If both people can keep their wits about them, yet feel the challenge of the other person's wit, they are sure to become attracted to each other.
If there is no challenge, there won't be any attraction -- unless it is a one-sided attraction and challenge (the person who is less able to keep their wits about them will be challenged and attracted to the other).
Start out with a friendship first!
Every relationship I ever had always started out with a friendship first.
Sometimes the friendship was even there for years, before it finally "clicked" Even though I like surprises, when it comes to relationships, I rather have a good idea about the package I am getting, before jumping into it.
Of course that doesn't guarantee that I won't get disappointed or hurt or find things out about him later, which I didn't see before, but it narrows the chance of "bad surprises" considerably.
How to Make Women feel attracted to you?
How to Make Women feel attracted to you I would like to share some advice on how to make women attracted to you by making her feel "special." The same applies to men / women relationship.
The most important thing you can do to make women feel attracted to you is to make her feel special. Women are a lot less interested in the way you appear to her than in the way to make her feel about herself.
It's very important to make women feel special and unique. In return, she will feel that you are also special and unique.
So, how do you make a woman feel special?
You tell her by saying something like this: "There's something very special about you. I noticed you the second I first saw you.
You have a very unique face that's so exotic I can't explain it.
You're more than just attractive.
There's something very unique and original about your look."
Just say this to a woman you've just met and watch her reaction.
I can guarantee you her face will light up with a smile and she will radiate warmth towards you.
Tell woman something special about her!
So, remember when you're out on the crowd looking for romance, don't forget to tell women that there's something special about them.
Make them feel that they are the most important and special person on the earth. If you can do this, you're love life will skyrocket!
CAN FRIENDSHIP TURN TO ROMANCE ?
CAN FRIENDSHIP TURN TO ROMANCE ?
It is important to be really systematic for turning friendship into romance. Friendship and romance are inseparable in many cases, but it is not universally true for all. Many people are enjoying their romantic life that they started with friendship a long back. On the other hand, the diametrically opposite situation may happen to your life also…you can lose your intimate friend in the mire of romance. It is the mystery of psychology that propels human beings to behave like this. But, we should always follow what our mind directs us to do. If you feel to make a romantic relationship with your friend, do not hesitate to march forward until you get him/her.
Just think of the situation – you have a friend, who understands you well, who knows you and would stand beside you in all situations; he/she is certainly the perfect match for your romantic life. The most important thing is that your have to be pragmatic enough to make her/him understand the situation, otherwise everything will be lost in the wave of time.
Romancing close friends can be risky – they may take the relationship as granted at the beginning…and you may have to face a false situation. If you are honest about your aims and objectives, do not hesitate! You know her well right from her earlier days and vice versa…and it is assumed that the relationship that exists between you can never be altered even if the sky comes down to the earth. A true friend can bring success, happiness and all the treasures in life. Honesty will pay for you and if you are honest to bring your relationship to romance, none has the power to stop that.
Most of the people assume lot of things at the beginning of any friendship. They start daydreaming and finish as a loser. It should be kept in mind that mere assuming would not pay you until you have an utmost desire to fulfill your demand. If you are too crazy to make a romantic relationship with your close friend…take time and wait for the perfect time to tell her. You would have to change certain things of you. Your lip service can play a big role to canalize your friendship to romance. Tell expressively and persuasively that you love her from your heart. If she does not want to change the equation of the relationship immediately, do not be worried; keep on persuading her and you would get the result in no time. In such cases faith and honesty work a lot.
It is necessary to bring certain changes within you; otherwise it would be too tough for you to transfer your relationship from friendship to romance. First of all, get a different look – always dress elegantly and spray perfume frequently, so that she can observe some changes in you. Be realistic and create an opportunity for her to come closure to you. Suppose, both of you are in a stroll, what you need to do is that place your palm near her waist and smoothly start rubbing until she gets aroused sexually. Wait for the perfect time - hold her hand and kiss. If she agrees with your gesture, carry on kissing in different places including lip, breast and more. Try to be direct with her and make no hesitation in asking for dating. Say, whatever you have at the earliest, because nobody knows what may happen in the days to come. Still, you need to be practical enough to judge the perfect time and place and of course, of the mental state of your beloved. Be true to your heart and do not fear from rejection. Keep a positive outlook and you can earn your desired soul by applying the tried and tested law.
Once she shows any positive sign of continuing romance, try to make it doubly sure by giving her romantic gifts and sumptuous treats at renowned restaurants. Whenever you get spare time, go to your nearby park or at the riverside. Speak in romantic tone and pick out some happy memories of the past. It will simply create magic for you. Make scope for her to vent out her emotional stories of her life. Sit closer to her and continue rubbing her body, so that she can feel good. Look for the opportunity to stimulate her physically as well as emotionally… if you can do so, you are rest assured of winning half the battle. She is not expected to tell about this incident to anyone; it is because of two separate reasons. Firstly, she would not like to create any gossip amongst her friends and secondly, she would not like to debar her from getting sexual pleasure.
So, be free from hesitation and enjoy the ultimate friendship through making love. Always remember the proverb – "Marriages are made in heaven" and if it is true, you do not need to bother about the consequences. Go and tell your friend!!! She would definitely reciprocate your feelings. It is quite possible that she is also making her mind for you…
It is important to be really systematic for turning friendship into romance. Friendship and romance are inseparable in many cases, but it is not universally true for all. Many people are enjoying their romantic life that they started with friendship a long back. On the other hand, the diametrically opposite situation may happen to your life also…you can lose your intimate friend in the mire of romance. It is the mystery of psychology that propels human beings to behave like this. But, we should always follow what our mind directs us to do. If you feel to make a romantic relationship with your friend, do not hesitate to march forward until you get him/her.
Just think of the situation – you have a friend, who understands you well, who knows you and would stand beside you in all situations; he/she is certainly the perfect match for your romantic life. The most important thing is that your have to be pragmatic enough to make her/him understand the situation, otherwise everything will be lost in the wave of time.
Romancing close friends can be risky – they may take the relationship as granted at the beginning…and you may have to face a false situation. If you are honest about your aims and objectives, do not hesitate! You know her well right from her earlier days and vice versa…and it is assumed that the relationship that exists between you can never be altered even if the sky comes down to the earth. A true friend can bring success, happiness and all the treasures in life. Honesty will pay for you and if you are honest to bring your relationship to romance, none has the power to stop that.
Most of the people assume lot of things at the beginning of any friendship. They start daydreaming and finish as a loser. It should be kept in mind that mere assuming would not pay you until you have an utmost desire to fulfill your demand. If you are too crazy to make a romantic relationship with your close friend…take time and wait for the perfect time to tell her. You would have to change certain things of you. Your lip service can play a big role to canalize your friendship to romance. Tell expressively and persuasively that you love her from your heart. If she does not want to change the equation of the relationship immediately, do not be worried; keep on persuading her and you would get the result in no time. In such cases faith and honesty work a lot.
It is necessary to bring certain changes within you; otherwise it would be too tough for you to transfer your relationship from friendship to romance. First of all, get a different look – always dress elegantly and spray perfume frequently, so that she can observe some changes in you. Be realistic and create an opportunity for her to come closure to you. Suppose, both of you are in a stroll, what you need to do is that place your palm near her waist and smoothly start rubbing until she gets aroused sexually. Wait for the perfect time - hold her hand and kiss. If she agrees with your gesture, carry on kissing in different places including lip, breast and more. Try to be direct with her and make no hesitation in asking for dating. Say, whatever you have at the earliest, because nobody knows what may happen in the days to come. Still, you need to be practical enough to judge the perfect time and place and of course, of the mental state of your beloved. Be true to your heart and do not fear from rejection. Keep a positive outlook and you can earn your desired soul by applying the tried and tested law.
Once she shows any positive sign of continuing romance, try to make it doubly sure by giving her romantic gifts and sumptuous treats at renowned restaurants. Whenever you get spare time, go to your nearby park or at the riverside. Speak in romantic tone and pick out some happy memories of the past. It will simply create magic for you. Make scope for her to vent out her emotional stories of her life. Sit closer to her and continue rubbing her body, so that she can feel good. Look for the opportunity to stimulate her physically as well as emotionally… if you can do so, you are rest assured of winning half the battle. She is not expected to tell about this incident to anyone; it is because of two separate reasons. Firstly, she would not like to create any gossip amongst her friends and secondly, she would not like to debar her from getting sexual pleasure.
So, be free from hesitation and enjoy the ultimate friendship through making love. Always remember the proverb – "Marriages are made in heaven" and if it is true, you do not need to bother about the consequences. Go and tell your friend!!! She would definitely reciprocate your feelings. It is quite possible that she is also making her mind for you…
Sunsigns and Dating Tricks and Tips - 1
Sunsigns and Dating Tricks and Tips - 1
A good way to win friends and influence the opposite sex is to talk about sunsigns. Not prattle at length about Aries, Taurus and other creatures of the zodiac belt, but speak intelligently on the advantages of one born under your listener’s sunsign. (“You are lucky to be born an Aquarian. They are geniuses born ahead of their time.”) What are sunsigns? They were called signs of the zodiac till an Arian lady wrote about them and made the term ‘sunsigns’ and herself famous. Read her books, and you become half an expert. This post will help complete your education. There is an imaginary belt of stars around our solar system called the zodiac. Read some good book on Astronomy or visit a good site or check out ‘Zodiac’ in the encyclopaedia to know more. Please. The zodiac belt is divided into twelve groups of stars or constellations: Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces. Ancient astronomers gave these names to these stellar groups to help them remember and record their positions easily. Mnemonics. I remember gazing and gazing at the night sky, trying to make out Taurus, till one fine night I had the bright idea of giving it up. Good thing I wasn’t a stubborn Taurus. Would have meant more nights with less sleep! Yawn! Modern Western Astrology has decided that Uranus rules Aquarius and Neptune rules Pisces, but I’m pakka desi and will stick patriotically to Sat and Jupes. If you are a selfless person hopelessly in love, you would have looked for his/her sunsign first. Good for you! Congratulations to the happy couple! Next step is to beg, borrow or buy a good book on sunsigns and read all about yours. Then you can research other people’s and extend your research by talking to them. Like pyramid schemes, the more people you talk to, all the more better for you, as an ungrammatical girl I know would say. It’s cool, in and hip to talk about sunsigns. Girls are more knowledgeable than boys in this. Why? Maybe because girls learn to equip themselves with all the weapons they need for relationship strategies at an early age. Boys are usually late, but better that than never. And because sunsigns are popular with teens, it is useful to know all about them if you want to be a hot thing with cool people. On a date, you can strike it great by talking about your victim’s sign. What you have to remember is to package it good. For example, the books tell you that Cancer is stingy and moody and choosy about friends and crabby. You tell the Cancerians that you know they plan their finances well, are highly sensitive, intuitive about friendships and have soft hearts. Over dessert, you could add that you always felt Cancerians were sexy. All the best!
A good way to win friends and influence the opposite sex is to talk about sunsigns. Not prattle at length about Aries, Taurus and other creatures of the zodiac belt, but speak intelligently on the advantages of one born under your listener’s sunsign. (“You are lucky to be born an Aquarian. They are geniuses born ahead of their time.”) What are sunsigns? They were called signs of the zodiac till an Arian lady wrote about them and made the term ‘sunsigns’ and herself famous. Read her books, and you become half an expert. This post will help complete your education. There is an imaginary belt of stars around our solar system called the zodiac. Read some good book on Astronomy or visit a good site or check out ‘Zodiac’ in the encyclopaedia to know more. Please. The zodiac belt is divided into twelve groups of stars or constellations: Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces. Ancient astronomers gave these names to these stellar groups to help them remember and record their positions easily. Mnemonics. I remember gazing and gazing at the night sky, trying to make out Taurus, till one fine night I had the bright idea of giving it up. Good thing I wasn’t a stubborn Taurus. Would have meant more nights with less sleep! Yawn! Modern Western Astrology has decided that Uranus rules Aquarius and Neptune rules Pisces, but I’m pakka desi and will stick patriotically to Sat and Jupes. If you are a selfless person hopelessly in love, you would have looked for his/her sunsign first. Good for you! Congratulations to the happy couple! Next step is to beg, borrow or buy a good book on sunsigns and read all about yours. Then you can research other people’s and extend your research by talking to them. Like pyramid schemes, the more people you talk to, all the more better for you, as an ungrammatical girl I know would say. It’s cool, in and hip to talk about sunsigns. Girls are more knowledgeable than boys in this. Why? Maybe because girls learn to equip themselves with all the weapons they need for relationship strategies at an early age. Boys are usually late, but better that than never. And because sunsigns are popular with teens, it is useful to know all about them if you want to be a hot thing with cool people. On a date, you can strike it great by talking about your victim’s sign. What you have to remember is to package it good. For example, the books tell you that Cancer is stingy and moody and choosy about friends and crabby. You tell the Cancerians that you know they plan their finances well, are highly sensitive, intuitive about friendships and have soft hearts. Over dessert, you could add that you always felt Cancerians were sexy. All the best!
A Recipe For Romance...
A Recipe For Romance...
So, tonight's the night. You want to have a Romantic evening with your Lady. What's this, hesitation? O.K. your nervous, what if you can't pull this off? Well, let me help! I'll walk you through a complete Romantic Day fit for a Queen. Your sweetie will feel so loved, she will be amazed with all the effort you put into this one day just for her. Now, as explained in my book "the Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" you'll need to start planning this a few days in advance.
On the day you choose as the Romantic day start with this: Once your Love leaves for work send her an email that will be there when she opens the morning emails. Keep it fairly short. Say something like, "I miss you already, so I am making today your Romantic Day! All my Love (you)." Now you've made your sweetie very curious as to what it is you have up your sleeve.
Next, have flowers delivered to her work place. Roses work best, but if too expensive use carnations instead. A red and white rose mix says, unity, true love, innocence. Or red and white carnations show admiration and pure love. Have some baby's breath thrown in to show happiness. Have these delivered just after lunch so the entire office will see just how sweet her fella is. Include a note saying "Just an other part of your Romantic Day!" Trust me this will really make her day. And, once again you've peaked her interest. While your speaking with your florist order some rose petals. They're usually very inexpensive, and they'll be ready when you wish to pick them up.
Once the later part of the afternoon rolls around you will have to begin setting up for dinner. In advance of this day get together some Romantic accessories. You will need candle holders, and candles. Place mats, a table cloth, even some silk flowers in a vase you can add to the table. You'll also need wine or champagne. Find yourself a tape/cd of Romantic Music. An oldie but goodie would be a Barry White album. For dinner itself, you may be surprised to learn that it really doesn't have to be exotic. What ever you are good at cooking is just find. A lot of times it is the small jesters and atmosphere that makes the difference. So, if pasta is your thing, that's cool. Just dress it up a bit. Make a nice chefs salad as an appetizer. Find a local bakery and pick up some fresh buns or biscuits. While you're there pick up something for dessert. And, since most women loooove chocolate I'd go with some sort of chocolate layer cake. Well...really...anything chocolate would be great!
Now that you have dinner under control and you are chilling the wine/champagne it's time for you to get you ready. You need to shower, brush your teeth, splash on some great cologne, and find something really sexy to wear. Here is where you're going to have a bit of fun with your sweetie. Find a sexy pair of underwear and put just a housecoat over them. Now, write your sweetie a note, say something like "Sweetie, I had such a busy day I was tired and had to lie down, please come to the bedroom when you get home." Leave the note where she'll find it as soon as she comes in. Now, remember those rose petals? Sprinkle them on the floor leading to your bedroom, also put some on the bed. You should be lying there in your most sexy pose when she opens the door.
Well, I think you can take it from here ;-)
Have fun!
So, tonight's the night. You want to have a Romantic evening with your Lady. What's this, hesitation? O.K. your nervous, what if you can't pull this off? Well, let me help! I'll walk you through a complete Romantic Day fit for a Queen. Your sweetie will feel so loved, she will be amazed with all the effort you put into this one day just for her. Now, as explained in my book "the Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" you'll need to start planning this a few days in advance.
On the day you choose as the Romantic day start with this: Once your Love leaves for work send her an email that will be there when she opens the morning emails. Keep it fairly short. Say something like, "I miss you already, so I am making today your Romantic Day! All my Love (you)." Now you've made your sweetie very curious as to what it is you have up your sleeve.
Next, have flowers delivered to her work place. Roses work best, but if too expensive use carnations instead. A red and white rose mix says, unity, true love, innocence. Or red and white carnations show admiration and pure love. Have some baby's breath thrown in to show happiness. Have these delivered just after lunch so the entire office will see just how sweet her fella is. Include a note saying "Just an other part of your Romantic Day!" Trust me this will really make her day. And, once again you've peaked her interest. While your speaking with your florist order some rose petals. They're usually very inexpensive, and they'll be ready when you wish to pick them up.
Once the later part of the afternoon rolls around you will have to begin setting up for dinner. In advance of this day get together some Romantic accessories. You will need candle holders, and candles. Place mats, a table cloth, even some silk flowers in a vase you can add to the table. You'll also need wine or champagne. Find yourself a tape/cd of Romantic Music. An oldie but goodie would be a Barry White album. For dinner itself, you may be surprised to learn that it really doesn't have to be exotic. What ever you are good at cooking is just find. A lot of times it is the small jesters and atmosphere that makes the difference. So, if pasta is your thing, that's cool. Just dress it up a bit. Make a nice chefs salad as an appetizer. Find a local bakery and pick up some fresh buns or biscuits. While you're there pick up something for dessert. And, since most women loooove chocolate I'd go with some sort of chocolate layer cake. Well...really...anything chocolate would be great!
Now that you have dinner under control and you are chilling the wine/champagne it's time for you to get you ready. You need to shower, brush your teeth, splash on some great cologne, and find something really sexy to wear. Here is where you're going to have a bit of fun with your sweetie. Find a sexy pair of underwear and put just a housecoat over them. Now, write your sweetie a note, say something like "Sweetie, I had such a busy day I was tired and had to lie down, please come to the bedroom when you get home." Leave the note where she'll find it as soon as she comes in. Now, remember those rose petals? Sprinkle them on the floor leading to your bedroom, also put some on the bed. You should be lying there in your most sexy pose when she opens the door.
Well, I think you can take it from here ;-)
Have fun!
7 Online Dating Tips...Go grab that Girl / Guy!
7 Online Dating Tips...Go grab that Girl / Guy!
This one is real stuff that an online dating guy/girl can dream of. Realistic tips from expert that can help you build your online profile "HOT" and you will see nice people dropping you cute love messages -
Here are seven tips for men and women from experts who help lonely-hearts craft the perfect profile.
1. Don’t kill them with adjectives
Sift through a dating site, and you’ll find unending lists of adjectives: Smart, kind, funny, adventurous, honest, caring ... Why not just include uncreative, cliched and boring?
“Don’t tell me you’re athletic – tell me about the marathon you just ran,” Eric Resnick, founder of Profilehelper.com, said. Don’t say you like to travel – talk about your trip to the Great Wall of China.
Keller recommended something he called “The Next-door Neighbor Test,” which he said almost everyone fails. “Read your profile and pretend it was written by your neighbor. If it looks like it could just as easily be his, then it’s not a good profile,” he said.
It’s also a good idea to survey the competition. Look at the profiles of other people in your demographic, and make sure you’re different.
2. The photo
Experts have a couple of strict rules. For men: “I don’t care how well-built you are, keep your shirt on,” Resnick said. “Women are laughing at you.”
For women: “No bikini shots. And if you’re going to put up a bikini picture, don’t be surprised if you get a lot of e-mails from guys you don’t want to meet,” Resnick said.
Avoid wearing sunglasses and hats, which can make it look as if you’ve got something to hide.
“Smile,” Resnick advised. “People try the serious shot because they want to seem professional, but you want to look like someone people would want to spend time with. People like happy people.”
Another tip: Don’t post too many bar shots with drinks in your hands, or multiple shots of yourself wearing the same clothes.
Be careful about cropping out other people from your pictures. Your ex’s disembodied hand hanging around your shoulder does not send the right message.
“It’s a lot like going to a video store, Keller said. “People walk through the aisle and when they see a cover that looks interesting, they flip it over and read the back. On dating sites, the photos are the cover and the profiles are the back.”
3. Stay out of the past
Nobody wants to hear how your ex-girlfriend cheated on you or your ex-husband was such a bore. Would you want to spend time with someone hung up on somebody else?
Another warning sign: People who keep mentioning the importance of “honesty.”
“All it does is make it sound like you were lied to and aren’t over it,” Resnick said. “And don’t ask for monogamy – it’s expected.”
A better approach is to talk about the present – what you've done recently, what makes you happy, what interests you – and the future – countries you hope to visit, books you hope to write, extravagant meals you plan to cook.
4. Don’t try to be a comedian
“Baby, you must be tired because you’ve been running through my dreams all night.”
Nothing can cause prospective paramours to cringe like a string of bad jokes.
“Don’t say ‘I’m going to write a funny profile,’ because you’re going to end up sounding like you tried to write a funny profile,” said Resnick. “You just want to be yourself.”
It’s OK to make jokes, but don’t treat your personal ad as an open-mic night. Firing off one-liners is a way to hide, not a good way to introduce yourself.
That doesn’t mean you should be stiff and serious, though. Tell a funny anecdote, talk about a quirky movie, show you can laugh at yourself.
Self-deprecating jokes can work, but don’t go overboard – if you call yourself an idiot, nobody will have any reason to doubt you.
5. This is not your diary
Honesty is important, but don’t treat your dating service as a confessional. It’s a delicate balance between sounding genuine and venting.
“Don’t say that you want to settle down and have four children and get away from your alcoholic parents and your awful upbringing,” Susan Fox, owner of Personals Work, said.
Resnick said you should think of your personal ad as your movie trailer, not your movie.
“It’s a 30-second snippet that makes people want to buy a ticket to the film,” he said.
6. Don’t fudge the truth
Lying will get you nowhere. If the hope is to meet your online crushes in the flesh, then those slight exaggerations will loom large. Keller said women tend to lie about their age and their weight, and men tend to lie about their height and their income.
“They’re going to quickly see if you weren’t being truthful and they’re going to wonder what else you’re not being truthful about,” Keller said.
7. Roll up your sleeves and get to work
Posting a good personal ad is only half the battle. The other half is scrolling through the ads to find someone you like.
“Don’t just sit back and wait to be found,” Fox said. “Perseverance is really important here. It’s a process that works, but you have to stick with it.”
When you do find people you like, don’t be shy. Contact them, tell them you’re interested, and then let your well-crafted witticisms and cute pictures reel them in.
This one is real stuff that an online dating guy/girl can dream of. Realistic tips from expert that can help you build your online profile "HOT" and you will see nice people dropping you cute love messages -
Here are seven tips for men and women from experts who help lonely-hearts craft the perfect profile.
1. Don’t kill them with adjectives
Sift through a dating site, and you’ll find unending lists of adjectives: Smart, kind, funny, adventurous, honest, caring ... Why not just include uncreative, cliched and boring?
“Don’t tell me you’re athletic – tell me about the marathon you just ran,” Eric Resnick, founder of Profilehelper.com, said. Don’t say you like to travel – talk about your trip to the Great Wall of China.
Keller recommended something he called “The Next-door Neighbor Test,” which he said almost everyone fails. “Read your profile and pretend it was written by your neighbor. If it looks like it could just as easily be his, then it’s not a good profile,” he said.
It’s also a good idea to survey the competition. Look at the profiles of other people in your demographic, and make sure you’re different.
2. The photo
Experts have a couple of strict rules. For men: “I don’t care how well-built you are, keep your shirt on,” Resnick said. “Women are laughing at you.”
For women: “No bikini shots. And if you’re going to put up a bikini picture, don’t be surprised if you get a lot of e-mails from guys you don’t want to meet,” Resnick said.
Avoid wearing sunglasses and hats, which can make it look as if you’ve got something to hide.
“Smile,” Resnick advised. “People try the serious shot because they want to seem professional, but you want to look like someone people would want to spend time with. People like happy people.”
Another tip: Don’t post too many bar shots with drinks in your hands, or multiple shots of yourself wearing the same clothes.
Be careful about cropping out other people from your pictures. Your ex’s disembodied hand hanging around your shoulder does not send the right message.
“It’s a lot like going to a video store, Keller said. “People walk through the aisle and when they see a cover that looks interesting, they flip it over and read the back. On dating sites, the photos are the cover and the profiles are the back.”
3. Stay out of the past
Nobody wants to hear how your ex-girlfriend cheated on you or your ex-husband was such a bore. Would you want to spend time with someone hung up on somebody else?
Another warning sign: People who keep mentioning the importance of “honesty.”
“All it does is make it sound like you were lied to and aren’t over it,” Resnick said. “And don’t ask for monogamy – it’s expected.”
A better approach is to talk about the present – what you've done recently, what makes you happy, what interests you – and the future – countries you hope to visit, books you hope to write, extravagant meals you plan to cook.
4. Don’t try to be a comedian
“Baby, you must be tired because you’ve been running through my dreams all night.”
Nothing can cause prospective paramours to cringe like a string of bad jokes.
“Don’t say ‘I’m going to write a funny profile,’ because you’re going to end up sounding like you tried to write a funny profile,” said Resnick. “You just want to be yourself.”
It’s OK to make jokes, but don’t treat your personal ad as an open-mic night. Firing off one-liners is a way to hide, not a good way to introduce yourself.
That doesn’t mean you should be stiff and serious, though. Tell a funny anecdote, talk about a quirky movie, show you can laugh at yourself.
Self-deprecating jokes can work, but don’t go overboard – if you call yourself an idiot, nobody will have any reason to doubt you.
5. This is not your diary
Honesty is important, but don’t treat your dating service as a confessional. It’s a delicate balance between sounding genuine and venting.
“Don’t say that you want to settle down and have four children and get away from your alcoholic parents and your awful upbringing,” Susan Fox, owner of Personals Work, said.
Resnick said you should think of your personal ad as your movie trailer, not your movie.
“It’s a 30-second snippet that makes people want to buy a ticket to the film,” he said.
6. Don’t fudge the truth
Lying will get you nowhere. If the hope is to meet your online crushes in the flesh, then those slight exaggerations will loom large. Keller said women tend to lie about their age and their weight, and men tend to lie about their height and their income.
“They’re going to quickly see if you weren’t being truthful and they’re going to wonder what else you’re not being truthful about,” Keller said.
7. Roll up your sleeves and get to work
Posting a good personal ad is only half the battle. The other half is scrolling through the ads to find someone you like.
“Don’t just sit back and wait to be found,” Fox said. “Perseverance is really important here. It’s a process that works, but you have to stick with it.”
When you do find people you like, don’t be shy. Contact them, tell them you’re interested, and then let your well-crafted witticisms and cute pictures reel them in.
Top 10 Tips for the First Date!
Top 10 Tips for the First Date!
* Set it up: An unforgettable first date starts with a solid setup. When you call her a day or two after getting her number, do not waste time on the phone. Get straight to business.
* If she says no: If you ask her out and she says, “I’m sorry, I have plans,” just say, “Cancel them! I’m more fun than whatever you’re doing.” Even if she doesn’t cancel (she probably won’t though), she’ll get a laugh, and it’ll at least show that you’re confident.
* Make her feel at home: Make her feel at home. Do not act being extra nice, extra courteous, kissing up, and letting her lead.
* Play around with her: Never give a direct answer, unless the answer is no. If she says, “Can we sit here?”; say, “No, let’s sit in this one next to it.”
* Turn it up: If she complains about you or doesn’t like something you are doing say, “I’m glad you like it,” and then do it more. This sends a clear signal that she can’t control or manipulate you by complaining like a little girl.
* Keep your composure: Most men can’t keep their composure when a woman tests them. But losing your composure is one of the fastest ways to lose your chances with a woman.
* Build attraction: Most guys confuse the word “attractive” with the word “attraction.” Attractive is how a person looks while attraction is an emotion. The thing to remember here is that women can feel a very powerful attraction towards a man who’s not attractive physically.
* Make it memorable: We tend to remember the first time we do things and you can use this to your advantage when hanging out with a woman. Find out something she has never done before, and incorporate it into your first date. This is the best way to make a lasting impression. She’ll never forget the date and, more importantly she’ll never forget you.
* Make your move: Obviously, men are the ones expected to ‘make a move”. So make your move, because that is what the woman expects you to do.
* Leave her alone: When you’re out together, leave her alone once in awhile. Women find this kind of independent man extremely attractive.
* Set it up: An unforgettable first date starts with a solid setup. When you call her a day or two after getting her number, do not waste time on the phone. Get straight to business.
* If she says no: If you ask her out and she says, “I’m sorry, I have plans,” just say, “Cancel them! I’m more fun than whatever you’re doing.” Even if she doesn’t cancel (she probably won’t though), she’ll get a laugh, and it’ll at least show that you’re confident.
* Make her feel at home: Make her feel at home. Do not act being extra nice, extra courteous, kissing up, and letting her lead.
* Play around with her: Never give a direct answer, unless the answer is no. If she says, “Can we sit here?”; say, “No, let’s sit in this one next to it.”
* Turn it up: If she complains about you or doesn’t like something you are doing say, “I’m glad you like it,” and then do it more. This sends a clear signal that she can’t control or manipulate you by complaining like a little girl.
* Keep your composure: Most men can’t keep their composure when a woman tests them. But losing your composure is one of the fastest ways to lose your chances with a woman.
* Build attraction: Most guys confuse the word “attractive” with the word “attraction.” Attractive is how a person looks while attraction is an emotion. The thing to remember here is that women can feel a very powerful attraction towards a man who’s not attractive physically.
* Make it memorable: We tend to remember the first time we do things and you can use this to your advantage when hanging out with a woman. Find out something she has never done before, and incorporate it into your first date. This is the best way to make a lasting impression. She’ll never forget the date and, more importantly she’ll never forget you.
* Make your move: Obviously, men are the ones expected to ‘make a move”. So make your move, because that is what the woman expects you to do.
* Leave her alone: When you’re out together, leave her alone once in awhile. Women find this kind of independent man extremely attractive.
8 Rules for a Successful Date
8 Rules for a Successful Date
Dating is a necessary part of finding the perfect match for you. Its a selection process, that needs to be followed with some type of an idea of how to handle yourself. Dating is a necessary part of finding the perfect match for you. Its a selection process, that needs to be followed with some type of an idea of how to handle yourself.
The easiest way to meet women is to be approachable and make new friends. This way you will meet more people and some of them might have female friends they will set you up with. You will be exposed to new places and activities, which might lead to meeting women.
There are guys that know how to date, guys that haven't dated in years, or others that has never been successful with women. Whatever the case, they all should follow some common rules for to have a successful date.
Finally you have a date with the beautiful girl you look after for some good time and she never seen you before. But, the miracle happened and you have the chance to meet her and impress her at a date. So, to not fail in you date watch out these important dating rules.
1. Try to look your best and be punctual on dates. Get your hygiene and stiling sorted out. Most women prefer smartly dressed guys. Not over the top, at the height of fashion, but cleanly turned out in suitable clothes. So your appearance can be vital.
Never be late for a date unless you have a very good reason. Women don't like to be kept waiting even less for a man .
2. Sort out your job if is one you are proud of and get your knowledge levels up. Most women love a guy to show that he can be in charge. So you should have every little detail taken care of and organized. It shows that you are capable, and attentive, qualities much sought after in a potential mate.
3. Pay attention to her. Be interested , stop talking and start listening. You are on a date with her to get to know each other, use that time effectively, to find out as much about each other as possible. Give her your undivided attention. Ask about her, show interest in her. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, her included. Allow her to talk, and then listen. This is one of the greatest compliments you can give another person. Also you should watch the details, nothing shows better that you are a sensitive, caring man that try all to make her feel comfortable on date.
4. Flatter and compliment your date on the way she look and how she is dressed. She made a lot of effort for to look wonderful on your date. So, it's good for her to hear that she looks good and is beautiful.
5. Have fun when dating to create a happy atmosphere so your partner to not get bored. It is very important that she feel good so maybe you will get a second date.
6. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
7. Never date a married person because she would not leave her husband for you and you will be for her just a shoulder to cry on. This types of date are based only on lies.
8. Be confident. Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident she will have more trust in you and your abilities.
The most importing thing at all on date is to be yourself. Thats because after the date there will be ordinary days to come and it have never paid to play someone youre not on the date. The best thing to do is to show the other person right from the beginning what kind of man you are or it will never work.
Dating is a necessary part of finding the perfect match for you. Its a selection process, that needs to be followed with some type of an idea of how to handle yourself. Dating is a necessary part of finding the perfect match for you. Its a selection process, that needs to be followed with some type of an idea of how to handle yourself.
The easiest way to meet women is to be approachable and make new friends. This way you will meet more people and some of them might have female friends they will set you up with. You will be exposed to new places and activities, which might lead to meeting women.
There are guys that know how to date, guys that haven't dated in years, or others that has never been successful with women. Whatever the case, they all should follow some common rules for to have a successful date.
Finally you have a date with the beautiful girl you look after for some good time and she never seen you before. But, the miracle happened and you have the chance to meet her and impress her at a date. So, to not fail in you date watch out these important dating rules.
1. Try to look your best and be punctual on dates. Get your hygiene and stiling sorted out. Most women prefer smartly dressed guys. Not over the top, at the height of fashion, but cleanly turned out in suitable clothes. So your appearance can be vital.
Never be late for a date unless you have a very good reason. Women don't like to be kept waiting even less for a man .
2. Sort out your job if is one you are proud of and get your knowledge levels up. Most women love a guy to show that he can be in charge. So you should have every little detail taken care of and organized. It shows that you are capable, and attentive, qualities much sought after in a potential mate.
3. Pay attention to her. Be interested , stop talking and start listening. You are on a date with her to get to know each other, use that time effectively, to find out as much about each other as possible. Give her your undivided attention. Ask about her, show interest in her. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, her included. Allow her to talk, and then listen. This is one of the greatest compliments you can give another person. Also you should watch the details, nothing shows better that you are a sensitive, caring man that try all to make her feel comfortable on date.
4. Flatter and compliment your date on the way she look and how she is dressed. She made a lot of effort for to look wonderful on your date. So, it's good for her to hear that she looks good and is beautiful.
5. Have fun when dating to create a happy atmosphere so your partner to not get bored. It is very important that she feel good so maybe you will get a second date.
6. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
7. Never date a married person because she would not leave her husband for you and you will be for her just a shoulder to cry on. This types of date are based only on lies.
8. Be confident. Confidence can open many doors for you. When you are confident she will have more trust in you and your abilities.
The most importing thing at all on date is to be yourself. Thats because after the date there will be ordinary days to come and it have never paid to play someone youre not on the date. The best thing to do is to show the other person right from the beginning what kind of man you are or it will never work.
What to do on your First Date?
What to do on your First Date?
Be creative.
Take a little time to think it through.
A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted.
Then again, you don't want to be stuck staring at each other without a topic of conversation.
A daytime meeting takes the heat off.
Lunch or coffee is a good start
(If you want to checkout a local spot to meet for lunch, you can go to Dine.com, enter your zip code and get ratings for restaurants in your area.)
Even better - a trip to the zoo.
Plenty of topics for discussion without having to deal with issues like: "What happened to your last relationship?"
And you can avoid the usual casual chit-chat like:
"My wife is still missing."
"I met my first boyfriend on the prison bus."
Yada. Yada. Yada.
Clothing
Clothing is not optional.
Wear clothes that make you feel good.
New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that's not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.
Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable
Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.
But mean it. Don't just say, "Nice shoes, Gladys."
"Swell belt, Ralph."
Let's review.
Find something nice. If it's painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn't be out with them in the first place.
Manners and/or Kindness
Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception.
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
Focus on the Other Person - pay attention to your date.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies.
Be THERE.
Listen actively to what your date says.
Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn.
Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don't complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you're not going to be at your best.
If your date gets swacked on your first date, it's not necessarily due to nervousness.
He or she is likely to be a heavy-drinker, at best, and could end up drooling on your new, pressed clothes as you shovel him or her into a cab.
Date ideas for the week:
Take a class together.
Wine-tasting?
Photography?
Or cut to the chase with a massage class.
Be creative.
Take a little time to think it through.
A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted.
Then again, you don't want to be stuck staring at each other without a topic of conversation.
A daytime meeting takes the heat off.
Lunch or coffee is a good start
(If you want to checkout a local spot to meet for lunch, you can go to Dine.com, enter your zip code and get ratings for restaurants in your area.)
Even better - a trip to the zoo.
Plenty of topics for discussion without having to deal with issues like: "What happened to your last relationship?"
And you can avoid the usual casual chit-chat like:
"My wife is still missing."
"I met my first boyfriend on the prison bus."
Yada. Yada. Yada.
Clothing
Clothing is not optional.
Wear clothes that make you feel good.
New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that's not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.
Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable
Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.
But mean it. Don't just say, "Nice shoes, Gladys."
"Swell belt, Ralph."
Let's review.
Find something nice. If it's painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn't be out with them in the first place.
Manners and/or Kindness
Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception.
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
Focus on the Other Person - pay attention to your date.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies.
Be THERE.
Listen actively to what your date says.
Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn.
Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don't complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you're not going to be at your best.
If your date gets swacked on your first date, it's not necessarily due to nervousness.
He or she is likely to be a heavy-drinker, at best, and could end up drooling on your new, pressed clothes as you shovel him or her into a cab.
Date ideas for the week:
Take a class together.
Wine-tasting?
Photography?
Or cut to the chase with a massage class.
Top 10 Ways To Make A First Date Unforgettable
Top 10 Ways To Make A First Date Unforgettable
The first date is always a make-or-break situation. If you play your cards right, you set the stage for a whole lot of hot fun. But mess up and you’ll NEVER hear from her again. Unfortunately, most guys screw up the first date so badly that the woman changes her phone number and moves out of state. Use these 10 tips to make yourself unforgettable in a good way:
Number 10
Set the date up right
An unforgettable first date starts with a solid setup. When you call her a day or two after getting her number, do not waste time on the phone. Get straight to business. Say something like, “Hey, I don’t have long to talk, but I wanted to touch base and say hi. I’m going to be busy today and tomorrow night, but let’s get together Saturday for a cup of coffee and some stimulating conversation…” Bang. Done. Don’t linger any longer than you have to. She’ll get the impression that you’re a busy guy with a busy life, and that she’ll have to EARN space in your calendar.
Number 9
If she says no
If you ask her out and she says, “I’m sorry, I have plans,” just say, “Cancel them! I’m more fun than whatever you’re doing.” Even if she doesn’t cancel (she probably won’t, which is fine), she’ll get a laugh, and it’ll show that you’re confident -- which is a HUGE turn-on. Just make sure that if she does cancel, you make it EXTRA fun and exciting by following the tips below…
Number 8
Leave her alone
When you’re out together, leave her alone once in awhile. Let’s say you’re out together at a store window shopping. Most guys will stick right alongside of the girl they’re with the entire time. BIG MISTAKE. Instead, walk away from her into a different part of the store once in awhile and let her come find you. This can make a HUGE difference in the way she sees you. At a subtle level, walking away from a woman communicates, “I’m confident and independent. I do what I want with my life, and I don’t need to stay right next to you every second to get your approval.” Women find this kind of independent man EXTREMELY attractive.
Number 7
Stop being extra nice
When we men are around attractive women, most of us tend to act like we want and need the woman’s approval by acting extra nice, extra courteous, kissing up, and letting her lead. The paradox is that needing her approval -- and behaving like you need it -- will NEVER cause her to feel that gut-level attraction for you. NEWSFLASH: Just because this is “common social courtesy,” doesn’t mean it works. Ironically, the way to get her approval and make her want you is to NOT NEED IT in the first place… and make sure she’s aware of this fact. Do this by making her work for your attention and approval. Don’t hand it to her on a silver platter by tripping over yourself to be “extra nice.”
Number 6
Never give a direct answer
Never give a woman a direct answer… unless the answer is NO. If she says, “Can we sit here?” I say, “No, let’s sit in this one next to it.” Or if she says, “How do you like my dress?” I say, “Well, give me a few more minutes to see it on you.” If she says, “Call me tomorrow,” I say, “No. You call me tomorrow. Come on, you want me and you know it.” Use everything she says as a way to playfully show that you’re the one in control, you’re not easy to please, and that you can already tell that she secretly digs you.
Number 5
Don’t be afraid to turn it up
If she complains about you or doesn’t like something you are doing say, “I’m glad you like it,” and then do it more. If she doesn’t like a song on the radio, turn up the volume -- in a playful way, of course. If she says, “I don’t really like it when you say that,” say, “Well then you might want to leave because I say it a lot.” This sends a clear signal that she can’t control or manipulate you by complaining like a little girl.
Number 4
Keep your composure
Most men can’t keep their composure when a woman tests them. But losing your composure is one of the fastest ways to lose your chances with a woman. So expect women to test you. They have to… how else can they know for sure if you’re really, really, REALLY the real deal? When she tests you, never let it take you off balance. Respond by communicating with your body language, voice tone, smiles, and words that you think it’s actually kind of CUTE. If you do have to put your foot down, always come from the place of, “I just don’t spend time around people that are unstable,” not from the place of, “This is upsetting me emotionally, and I can’t keep my cool.” Think James Bond, George Clooney in Ocean’s 11, or Clark Gable in Gone with the Wind. These guys are ALWAYS in control… and never lose their cool.
Number 3
Make your move
Obviously, men are the ones expected to “make a move.” But it’s easy to become overtaken by fear of failure at that critical moment… to the point where you FREEZE UP and don’t do anything! This, of course, leads to not succeeding at all. A woman will let you die on the vine before SHE makes a move. Sure, she’ll be disappointed that you didn’t gather the courage to do it, but not so disappointed that she’ll do it herself. Why? Because if you can’t assert yourself, then you are NOT the kind of man she’s looking for. So when the moment comes, do the thing you fear and “make your move” -- she’ll thank you for it, believe me.
Number 2
Make it her first time
Remember the first time you rode a bike? Your first high school dance? Your first girlfriend? The fact is we tend to remember the FIRST TIME we do things… and you can use this to your advantage when hanging out with a woman. Find out something she’s never done before, and incorporate it into your first date. Even if it’s something as simple as a far-out cocktail or an off-the-wall flavor of ice cream that you love and that she’s never tried, you’ll make a lasting impression in her mind. She’ll never forget the date and, more importantly… she’ll never forget YOU.
Number 1
Build attraction
Most guys confuse the word “attractive” with the word “attraction.” Attractive is how a person LOOKS. Many guys think, “I’m not physically attractive, like a Brad Pitt, so I won’t be able to succeed with women,” and they psychologically give up. But ATTRACTION is an emotion… it’s the feeling you get toward another person when you have a sexual interest in them. The thing to remember here is that women can feel a very powerful ATTRACTION toward a man who’s not very attractive physically. And you can make yourself far more attractive if you take the time to understand that a woman’s “attraction mechanism” is triggered as much by your personality and style of communication as a man’s attraction mechanism is triggered by the physical beauty of a woman. So forget about your looks and, instead, LEARN how to make women feel attraction for you.
The first date is always a make-or-break situation. If you play your cards right, you set the stage for a whole lot of hot fun. But mess up and you’ll NEVER hear from her again. Unfortunately, most guys screw up the first date so badly that the woman changes her phone number and moves out of state. Use these 10 tips to make yourself unforgettable in a good way:
Number 10
Set the date up right
An unforgettable first date starts with a solid setup. When you call her a day or two after getting her number, do not waste time on the phone. Get straight to business. Say something like, “Hey, I don’t have long to talk, but I wanted to touch base and say hi. I’m going to be busy today and tomorrow night, but let’s get together Saturday for a cup of coffee and some stimulating conversation…” Bang. Done. Don’t linger any longer than you have to. She’ll get the impression that you’re a busy guy with a busy life, and that she’ll have to EARN space in your calendar.
Number 9
If she says no
If you ask her out and she says, “I’m sorry, I have plans,” just say, “Cancel them! I’m more fun than whatever you’re doing.” Even if she doesn’t cancel (she probably won’t, which is fine), she’ll get a laugh, and it’ll show that you’re confident -- which is a HUGE turn-on. Just make sure that if she does cancel, you make it EXTRA fun and exciting by following the tips below…
Number 8
Leave her alone
When you’re out together, leave her alone once in awhile. Let’s say you’re out together at a store window shopping. Most guys will stick right alongside of the girl they’re with the entire time. BIG MISTAKE. Instead, walk away from her into a different part of the store once in awhile and let her come find you. This can make a HUGE difference in the way she sees you. At a subtle level, walking away from a woman communicates, “I’m confident and independent. I do what I want with my life, and I don’t need to stay right next to you every second to get your approval.” Women find this kind of independent man EXTREMELY attractive.
Number 7
Stop being extra nice
When we men are around attractive women, most of us tend to act like we want and need the woman’s approval by acting extra nice, extra courteous, kissing up, and letting her lead. The paradox is that needing her approval -- and behaving like you need it -- will NEVER cause her to feel that gut-level attraction for you. NEWSFLASH: Just because this is “common social courtesy,” doesn’t mean it works. Ironically, the way to get her approval and make her want you is to NOT NEED IT in the first place… and make sure she’s aware of this fact. Do this by making her work for your attention and approval. Don’t hand it to her on a silver platter by tripping over yourself to be “extra nice.”
Number 6
Never give a direct answer
Never give a woman a direct answer… unless the answer is NO. If she says, “Can we sit here?” I say, “No, let’s sit in this one next to it.” Or if she says, “How do you like my dress?” I say, “Well, give me a few more minutes to see it on you.” If she says, “Call me tomorrow,” I say, “No. You call me tomorrow. Come on, you want me and you know it.” Use everything she says as a way to playfully show that you’re the one in control, you’re not easy to please, and that you can already tell that she secretly digs you.
Number 5
Don’t be afraid to turn it up
If she complains about you or doesn’t like something you are doing say, “I’m glad you like it,” and then do it more. If she doesn’t like a song on the radio, turn up the volume -- in a playful way, of course. If she says, “I don’t really like it when you say that,” say, “Well then you might want to leave because I say it a lot.” This sends a clear signal that she can’t control or manipulate you by complaining like a little girl.
Number 4
Keep your composure
Most men can’t keep their composure when a woman tests them. But losing your composure is one of the fastest ways to lose your chances with a woman. So expect women to test you. They have to… how else can they know for sure if you’re really, really, REALLY the real deal? When she tests you, never let it take you off balance. Respond by communicating with your body language, voice tone, smiles, and words that you think it’s actually kind of CUTE. If you do have to put your foot down, always come from the place of, “I just don’t spend time around people that are unstable,” not from the place of, “This is upsetting me emotionally, and I can’t keep my cool.” Think James Bond, George Clooney in Ocean’s 11, or Clark Gable in Gone with the Wind. These guys are ALWAYS in control… and never lose their cool.
Number 3
Make your move
Obviously, men are the ones expected to “make a move.” But it’s easy to become overtaken by fear of failure at that critical moment… to the point where you FREEZE UP and don’t do anything! This, of course, leads to not succeeding at all. A woman will let you die on the vine before SHE makes a move. Sure, she’ll be disappointed that you didn’t gather the courage to do it, but not so disappointed that she’ll do it herself. Why? Because if you can’t assert yourself, then you are NOT the kind of man she’s looking for. So when the moment comes, do the thing you fear and “make your move” -- she’ll thank you for it, believe me.
Number 2
Make it her first time
Remember the first time you rode a bike? Your first high school dance? Your first girlfriend? The fact is we tend to remember the FIRST TIME we do things… and you can use this to your advantage when hanging out with a woman. Find out something she’s never done before, and incorporate it into your first date. Even if it’s something as simple as a far-out cocktail or an off-the-wall flavor of ice cream that you love and that she’s never tried, you’ll make a lasting impression in her mind. She’ll never forget the date and, more importantly… she’ll never forget YOU.
Number 1
Build attraction
Most guys confuse the word “attractive” with the word “attraction.” Attractive is how a person LOOKS. Many guys think, “I’m not physically attractive, like a Brad Pitt, so I won’t be able to succeed with women,” and they psychologically give up. But ATTRACTION is an emotion… it’s the feeling you get toward another person when you have a sexual interest in them. The thing to remember here is that women can feel a very powerful ATTRACTION toward a man who’s not very attractive physically. And you can make yourself far more attractive if you take the time to understand that a woman’s “attraction mechanism” is triggered as much by your personality and style of communication as a man’s attraction mechanism is triggered by the physical beauty of a woman. So forget about your looks and, instead, LEARN how to make women feel attraction for you.
10 Reasons to Use Online Dating Sites
10 Reasons to Use Online Dating Sites
There are many more reasons than just ten that I would like to mention, but in this article I have focussed on the primary ten reasons why I believe on-line dating is here to stay. It is now understood that the industry has even further to grow as more and more service suppliers in this segment realize the many niches yet to be serviced and explored. If you are concerned about your time, privacy or safety, while using On-line Dating, then this is a 'must read'.
1.Most people are pretty busy these days. You can imagine how many times you would have to go out and socialize before finding the right partner. Then consider how much you end up spending week after week. You may meet the right person the first time you go out, but you and I know that this is highly unlikely. This procedure more often than not ends up in a lot of wasted time and a lot of wasted money too. However, dating sites(in general) cost nothing to register and or search.
2.Dating sites (the good ones) are in the main, free to join. Only costing you money when you have linked up with someone and intend on meeting with them or communicating further. This is a great feature because it means you will be aware of the basic geography, the hobbies, nuances, hobbies, and other interests before you meet. This is so much less time consuming than dating different people over and over before you find that 'right' person or even just the essential pieces of information.
3.From time to time you can also place advertisements on these sites which stimulates response and gives you a wider field to choose from.
4.You can remain anonymous (recommended) and protect your identity until you're ready and comfortable enough to disclose who you reallly are. If you decide the other person is not for you, you can easily and tactfully end communication without any animosity or even further contact.
5.Some people moving to a new location like to establish relationships and friend before they arrive at their new abode, allowing settling in to be that much easier. This is very often relevant to single parents. There are sites out there that are specific to single parents dating which make the job of meeting that much easier.
6.You may be having difficulty meeting people of the same faith or religion. In this case, there are niche dating sites that service this need in almost every major religion or faith.
7.Equally important is the need to service alternative dating requirements for those who seek pursuits outside the mainstream world of dating. There are many sites to choose from in this category to a point where choosing a good alternative dating service can become confusing and almost frustrating. Look for a Dating Site Review Service to assist you with this. Most of these service sites will have carried out some reviews in addition to weeding out the good from the not so good. If you don't find a particular site on a dating site review service it usually means the owners were uncomfortable with the site and will not include it in their pages or they haven't got around to reviewing it as yet - If the latter is the case, send them an email asking them to review that particular site. Most will follow through and you will find a review in as little as a few days in some cases. If it does not turn up on their pages, there could be something wrong with it.
8.Adult dating also falls into the above category due to its large following. Fortunately, the same solution applies. Just find a dating site review service that has done the 'hard yards' on your behalf and click away. The good review sites are free and will guide you to the better service suppliers.
9.On the subject of Dating Site Review Services, some of them supply newsletters which keep you informed and up to date on new services, promotions (ie.Romance Tours, Dating Events and Speed Dating etc.) and of course other exciting freebies. It is always worth subscribing because you can always unsubscribe if you want to. Just make sure they mention that in their 'sign up box'. Some independent sites have their own newsletters but common sense tells you that you are more likely to receive a more diverse range of information and promotions from the Dating Site Review Service than from just one independent dating site. This occurs because they will screen a whole swag of offers from a host of sites rather than just one before they onsend them to you.
10.Another cool free service from responsible dating sites and review services are the articles which frequently guide you in the right direction with dating trends and tips for successful dating and romance.
I hope this article has opened you eyes to just a few of the many benefits and features that can be obtained when using dating sites to help you.
Enjoy!
There are many more reasons than just ten that I would like to mention, but in this article I have focussed on the primary ten reasons why I believe on-line dating is here to stay. It is now understood that the industry has even further to grow as more and more service suppliers in this segment realize the many niches yet to be serviced and explored. If you are concerned about your time, privacy or safety, while using On-line Dating, then this is a 'must read'.
1.Most people are pretty busy these days. You can imagine how many times you would have to go out and socialize before finding the right partner. Then consider how much you end up spending week after week. You may meet the right person the first time you go out, but you and I know that this is highly unlikely. This procedure more often than not ends up in a lot of wasted time and a lot of wasted money too. However, dating sites(in general) cost nothing to register and or search.
2.Dating sites (the good ones) are in the main, free to join. Only costing you money when you have linked up with someone and intend on meeting with them or communicating further. This is a great feature because it means you will be aware of the basic geography, the hobbies, nuances, hobbies, and other interests before you meet. This is so much less time consuming than dating different people over and over before you find that 'right' person or even just the essential pieces of information.
3.From time to time you can also place advertisements on these sites which stimulates response and gives you a wider field to choose from.
4.You can remain anonymous (recommended) and protect your identity until you're ready and comfortable enough to disclose who you reallly are. If you decide the other person is not for you, you can easily and tactfully end communication without any animosity or even further contact.
5.Some people moving to a new location like to establish relationships and friend before they arrive at their new abode, allowing settling in to be that much easier. This is very often relevant to single parents. There are sites out there that are specific to single parents dating which make the job of meeting that much easier.
6.You may be having difficulty meeting people of the same faith or religion. In this case, there are niche dating sites that service this need in almost every major religion or faith.
7.Equally important is the need to service alternative dating requirements for those who seek pursuits outside the mainstream world of dating. There are many sites to choose from in this category to a point where choosing a good alternative dating service can become confusing and almost frustrating. Look for a Dating Site Review Service to assist you with this. Most of these service sites will have carried out some reviews in addition to weeding out the good from the not so good. If you don't find a particular site on a dating site review service it usually means the owners were uncomfortable with the site and will not include it in their pages or they haven't got around to reviewing it as yet - If the latter is the case, send them an email asking them to review that particular site. Most will follow through and you will find a review in as little as a few days in some cases. If it does not turn up on their pages, there could be something wrong with it.
8.Adult dating also falls into the above category due to its large following. Fortunately, the same solution applies. Just find a dating site review service that has done the 'hard yards' on your behalf and click away. The good review sites are free and will guide you to the better service suppliers.
9.On the subject of Dating Site Review Services, some of them supply newsletters which keep you informed and up to date on new services, promotions (ie.Romance Tours, Dating Events and Speed Dating etc.) and of course other exciting freebies. It is always worth subscribing because you can always unsubscribe if you want to. Just make sure they mention that in their 'sign up box'. Some independent sites have their own newsletters but common sense tells you that you are more likely to receive a more diverse range of information and promotions from the Dating Site Review Service than from just one independent dating site. This occurs because they will screen a whole swag of offers from a host of sites rather than just one before they onsend them to you.
10.Another cool free service from responsible dating sites and review services are the articles which frequently guide you in the right direction with dating trends and tips for successful dating and romance.
I hope this article has opened you eyes to just a few of the many benefits and features that can be obtained when using dating sites to help you.
Enjoy!
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